@Susan, the golden rule works best when all follow it. If someone else is being totally self-indulgent, they can easily overwhelm those following the golden rule. There is also the silver rule (do unto others as they have done unto you) and the iron rule (do unto others before they do unto you). and all three are operant in the world. So how do we respond? If I follow the golden rule and I run into opposition from someone following the iron rule, I will be destroyed.